Wildflowers
Hello World!
Here is the first bouquet to jumpstart the summer of 2022—some wildflowers for you! :-)
You may have wondered why my blog posts disappeared for almost a year, and now, have suddenly reappeared, again. Well, I needed to disappear from the world to do some grieving and to slay some dragons/monsters on social media, haven’t you noticed? I’m sure you already know the reason by now.
I remember just like yesterday—I was sitting right here last year in July, heartbroken and tearful as I wrote my last blog post of 2021, during one of most painful and vulnerable times of my life. Words poured out of me as I slipped slowly into the depth of my grief, starting with the major loss of my father, then followed by a cascade of other losses and traumatic events throughout 2021. I chose not to publish my last blog post, and took off my entire blog abruptly for the purpose of grieving. To be quite honest, based on what I had observed of the world leading up to that time, I did not think I would ever grant the world access to my blog again.
As I am well aware, the world is full of hungry ghosts—so hungry that they have had to hack their way into my private spaces, to gain access to my computer, my phone, my social media accounts, and my emails, to feed on details of my life and my personal writing. Such are cybercrimes and have legal consequences. Whoever you are, I do ask that you withdraw your hands immediately and respect my privacy.
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Over this past year, many of you have witnessed the horrible events, including the smear campaign, the defamation, the hate, and the abuse, that were directed at me on social media, all the while I was busy grieving the losses in my personal life. “Cruelty” isn’t even close to describe such malicious intents and actions of those who have committed such harms, and those who have enabled such harmful behaviors. They are inexcusable, especially when done by those so-called professionals in the helping professions. Even when I tried to avoid that toxic space to begin with, by removing myself from social media for years, it was still inevitable, wasn’t it? Somehow, I have become a threat to certain people, who apparently have had no problem stealing my intellectual property for their social media posts, their coaching/therapy business or their literary work.
I’ve realized, not having an active/large social media account somehow has put me in a vulnerable position and made me an easy target for those attacks. I’m sure, there have been many stereotypes and false accusations made about me. Some may even have assumed that there would be no way I could speak up for myself, or defend my name since I didn’t have an active/large social media account. It is a sad, mean and twisted world we live in, don’t you think? People are quick to put someone on a pedestal and worship fake “Instagram influencers” just because they are loud, and have a glossy social media page with a large following. Yet, people love to judge, spew hate, and make assumptions about someone (whom they know nothing about), especially when he/she chooses to live his/her life authentically and humbly OFFLINE, and doesn’t seek attention or need validation to be a decent human being. It is a culture of hate and violence that social media platforms have enabled, because it is profitable. And it is ruining society.
Now, here we are, a year later, I’m sure you have learned many things about me, and where I stand with certain issues. In turn, I have learned something about you, while at the same time, have unexpectedly gained some lovely friends along the way. And although I may not see all of you from where I am, I sincerely appreciate those who have borne witness of my struggles, supported me and stood by me over the course of those many months.
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Lately, I have done some thinking, and changed my mind to republish my blog posts, only because I know they can serve as tools and resources for those who are grieving and/or still working on their healing from past hurts, trauma and core wounds. Please read and follow my Social Media Policy if you’re here perusing through my website and going to read/share my blog posts.
I have been made aware that much of my personal writings, emails and blog posts have already been stolen and aired out on the world wide web. I am highly upset that my privacy has been violated, even after I have freely served the world these past many months. Had you simply asked me respectfully, I would have offered my writings to you. With all the communication tools we have, no one has directly and clearly communicated it to me. Yet, you all have taken a deep dive into the privacy of my personal life without my consent, and gained something out of it. Imagine how that would feel if it was you in my position. Imagine how that would affect my professional life and my work with my clients? How about we practice some real empathy instead of just preaching about it?
Do not count on me to engage much on IG from now on, because I simply CANNOT stand that platform as it has done horrible things to people’s mental health and ruined many relationships. I didn’t realize how ugly and cruel humans can be until I got to experience it this past year. As you may have already guessed, I only re-activated my IG account to fight those battles for the sake of clearing my name, revealing the truths and shedding light on certain matters.
Lastly, please understand this, receiving free resources and offerings from me is a privilege, NOT a right. I have spoken on the importance of boundaries before, and I ask that you respect my boundaries and my privacy moving forward. I choose when to write, what to post, and where to publish my writing. I do have a busy schedule and a life away from this digital platform. While relationships on digital/social platforms are the norm these days, digital relationships are exactly just that—digital. I do prefer forming and engaging in meaningful human interactions, relationships and conversations in real life over those on digital/social platforms ANY DAY.
If you have a serious inquiry or need to communicate with me, I'd greatly appreciate it if you could introduce yourself via email and/or phone, and we could take our communication/collaboration further. Please be patient with me as I do take some time to respond to emails.
If you are a potential client, please book a consult with me.
Authentically yours,